Dear Chat Daddy,
I am a 33-year-old divorced mother of three small
children who is currently on unemployment
due to my recent layoff. It is an
everyday struggle for me to provide
for my children, especially
since the holidays are around
the corner. My ex-husband
never helps me and always
gives excuses every time I ask
him for child support. He has a
hard time keeping a job and
avoids me every chance he gets.
The truth is that he feels the need
to take all of his misfortune and our
failed relationship out on me because I
refuse to be with him. Chat Daddy, I don’t even
have enough money to celebrate Thanksgiving or
Christmas and it really hurts me because I really
want to give my children the best of everything.
What should I do?
-Just Not In The Holiday Mood
Dear Just Not In The Holiday Mood,
Sweetheart, I am truly sorry for your problem this
time of year. Let’s start with prayer about this situation.
How unfortunate that your ex does not want to
provide for his family, and give them the support and
nurturing that they need and deserve. Aside from
being on the grind for a new job, I would suggest
that you try having a serious chat with him, as
adults, in the best interest of your children. Not only
is it immature for him to behave in that way, but it is
indeed cruel. In addition, if he still does not comply,
I would suggest that you take him to court and
demand what is necessary for your family.
Start seeking other family members you and your children can spend the holidays with, who would of course help you as well. There are many organizations or groups in the city that are more than happy to help with some of your children’s holiday wishes. Here’s to you and yours having a joyous holiday season filled with cheer and positivity.
Be encouraged.
Dear Chat Daddy,
-My Son’s No Pawn
Dear My Son’s No Pawn,
Wow. Thank you very much for your letter. I
would suggest that you obtain special educational
services for your son on your own while taking this
major unfortunate deal up with a higher power in the
school system, and let your son’s needs and voice be
heard.
Definitely explain the entire situation to them and let them know exactly what has been taking place. This is certainly unacceptable and quite disheartening. So many people think that our children are only good for sports, which is so untrue! We must teach them to dream much bigger than that while teaching them other skills and talents.
I’m a firm believer that no child should be left behind and the fact that this so-called institution of learning is passing him just because he is a good athlete is unfathomable. I would also suggest that you take him off of the basketball and football teams as well. His learning is much more important. Here’s to you finding the academic help that your son needs and him improving in his studies in a phenomenal way.
A special Happy Thanksgiving to you and your families from Chat Daddy!
Art “Chat Daddy” Sims can be reached via e-mail at chatdaddy@chicagodefender.com
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