Dear Chat Daddy,
My husband and I have been married now for
nine years and we have a 3-month-old son. I have
been noticing some changes in him, and my gut
feeling tells me that he has cheated on me. My
husband doesn’t want to make love the
way we used to, and he is overly
critical about everything in our
household. Chat Daddy, to
make matters worse, I recently
studied his cell phone bill
and realized that he has been
calling this one particular
number numerous times.
The first time I called the
number, a woman answered,
but I just hung up. I am thinking
about doing it a second
time, but every time I get ready
to, I tighten up and become so full
with raging emotions. I want to confront
him, but I don’t know what to do
and how to go about bringing it up. What should
I do?
- Don’t Get It Twisted, You’re My Husband
Dear Don’t Get It Twisted, You’re My Husband,
Sweetheart, what a tricky situation. Anytime
one mate thinks that the other might be cheating,
it can put the relationship under a tremendous
strain. Before you have any other extended conversation
with this woman on the other side of
the telephone, your primary point of reference is
obvious: your man. It sounds to me like trouble is
brewing here and, as heartbreaking as it is, his
behavior is a telltale sign of cheating. I definitely
think that you should question him about the
phone number.
Anytime someone is constantly being overly
critical of you and seems to be aloof when it
comes down to you, it really shows a lack of
interest and that something may be going on.
Simply communicate with him and tell how you
honestly feel. If he doesn’t seem at all concerned
in what you have to say, then you may want to
seriously re-evaluate your relationship. You both
may need to see a marriage counselor who can
help you sort out some of the issues. You have
been together for this long, I would hate to see
your relationship end over adultery. Most importantly
raising your son together is key. Be
encouraged.
Dear Chat Daddy,
I’m a 33-year-old female with a very
high sex drive, and I have yet to find a
person (male or female) who can satisfy
me sexually. I have used all of
my sick and vacation days at work
this year just to have sex. I can have
sex several times a day and still not
be satisfied. Chat Daddy, do you
think I have a problem and do I need
to see a doctor about this?
-Longing To Be Satisfied
Dear Longing To Be Satisfied,
Oh my! Sister girl you need to see somebody
because it seems to me that you are losing your
mind over sex. I hope you have been using protection
while on your quest of finding someone
who can get you to your ultimate point of satisfaction.
You obviously have an extremely intense
libido, and that’s cool because women have varying
degrees of interest in sex, ranging from no
interest at all to levels that can exceed normal
desire. In your case, though, your sex drive seems to
be off the chain. Please make an appointment
with your doctor or a sex therapist to discuss your
issue. You could be a victim of nymphomania, a
psychological disorder peculiar to women who
are obsessed with sex and who have an overactive
libido. Anytime your sex drive is preventing
you from living a normal life then your behavior
towards sex is excessive, by any standards.
Here’s to you learning to love yourself while you
redirect your destiny with a newfound energy of
comfort and peace within your soul.
Art “Chat Daddy” Sims can be reached via email at chatdaddy@chicagodefender.com.
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