Dear Chat Daddy,
I am an 18-year-old woman who
will be a freshman in college
this coming fall. I’ve
always excelled in my
studies and made my
parents extremely
proud. This will be my
first time being away
from home, and I am
really worried about it. But the bigger issue is
that I want to pursue a
career in fine arts and major
in dance and minor in film production,
however, my parents are not
hearing it. They feel as if it is not a
great and stable future in that, and it
would only be a waste of their money
and my time. So, as a result, they
have advised me to take up business
with a focus in marketing. What
should I do?
-Following My Parents’ Dream Or
Just Do Me?
Dear Following My Parents’
Dream Or Just Do Me?,
First of all, congratulations on getting
through your high school years
successfully and being accepted into
college. There is a great saying:
To thy own self be
true. And that, my darling,
is what you definitely
have to do. Honor and thank
your parents for all
of their hard work
and efforts. But you
should have another sit
down with your parents
and really explain to them
how you truly feel. Simply tell
them that you know that they want
the best for you, however, your happiness
is what you are striving for.
Reassure them that they will bask in
all of your success in the pursuit of
your dream. Yes, they are paying for
your education, but they are making
an investment in your future and
overall positive well-being. Here’s to you
living your true destiny and continuously
making your parents gleam
with pride in the process!
Dear Chat Daddy,
My cousin has recently been going
through some financial difficulty and
one day asked to borrow $500 from
me. She only contacts me when she
needs something. But I love her and
wanted to help anyway. Plus, she
promised to pay me back within a
month. It has now been two months,
and I still haven’t received my
money and every time I call her, I get
the runaround or voice mail. I just
found out that she just came back
from a vacation in Las Vegas. What
should I do?
-You Better Have My Money
Dear You Better Have My Money, Come on now, you know as well as I do that you are being played. First of all, what would possess you to loan her that kind of money if you suspect that she only deals with you only when she wants something? It seems to be that your cousin may have issues with dealing with money properly. I would suggest that you try having a serious talk with her about this and if she still doesn’t comply, then yes, you should definitely take her to court--plain and simple. Take this as a lesson learned, sweetheart, and don’t give yourself too easily just to please others--relatives or not. Be encouraged.
Art “Chat Daddy” Sims can be
reached at chatdaddy@chicagodefender.com.
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